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When is it OK for legislation to govern love?


This week’s Human Rights Campaign in support of marriage equality no doubt inspired a sense of hope for humanity with many (most?) of us. The message that legislation has NO business dictating who we love was loud and clear. There’s plenty of work to be done to drive this to fruition AND ensure ANY law that meddles with matters of love are stopped — including idiotic, money-wasting, ineffective breed specific legislation (BSL) that dictates what types of dogs we can love.

My friend Erika, a fellow volunteer at the local county animal shelter, posted this picture today that speaks volumes. It’s a picture of her and “Mama Mia” loving each other in the only place where they’re allowed to be together — in confines of Mama’s kennel at the shelter. They are the perfect match, but Erika can’t adopt her because she lives in a city that senselessly bans Pit Bulls. This is wrong.

Cesar Millan once said something that resonated with me — something to the affect that a Pit Bull is just a dog in a Pit Bull outfit. Before the Pit Bull witch hunt, Rottweilers were the target and before them, it was Dobermans, German Shepherds… Perhaps, your dog’s breed will be next.

Persecuting entire categories of living creatures based on breed, race, gender, religion, sexual orientation, physical/mental capabilities, etc. is wrong and discrimination-based laws should never be tolerated!

Sadly, in the case of BSL, millions of lives are senselessly lost because of it every year in the US alone. Some of these animals may be punished simply for visual similarities with banned breeds — mistaken identity is frightfully common during Pit Bull labeling.

Animals can’t change laws. Animals can’t rally those who can with equality memes
. We MUST be their voices not just through fighting discrimination-based laws, but through saying ‘no’ to irresponsible breeding — don’t buy from puppy mill sourced pet stores. Spay/neuter your pets. If you’re looking for a particular breed, consider a breed specific rescue. Check local shelters frequently in person or online via sites like or to find your perfect pet.

Enough is enough with all laws that encourage discrimination of any form!!!


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1st day of 12th Grade

Yikes! In the category of time flies…

A lot of you have known me & therefore have virtually known Skrockette for years. This was the first 1st day of school photo I blogged…


This was the last “in the classroom at her desk on the 1st day of school” photo I snapped…


Then we entered the “I can’t be seen anywhere near my mother” phase for the first day of school photos…

ImageAnd that leads us to today. Skrockette’s first day of her last year of high school. Kind, compassionate, bright and eager to jump into her next chapter. 🙂


“For tomorrow belongs to the people who prepare for it today” ~African Proverb

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The objects of my affection…

So, you’ll hear more about the #1 object of my affection tomorrow (of the non human variety), but for now let’s talk about these…

I know what you’re thinking… “It should be illegal to be that cute.” It’s not. I find their cuteness obnoxious & they don’t even belong to me. They belong to her..

…the sweetest, most attentive, beautiful momma cat that ever walked the face of the earth. Her instincts are impeccable — she knows who her friends are & won’t hesitate to clearly warn those who could present a risk to her babies. She’s homeless & was found by the amazing shelter that Skrockette & I volunteer at. She & her kitties are Skrockette’s and my 2nd fosters. Our first was Rudy (yup, named after that Rudy), he was thrown from a car window at 4 weeks old & rescued by the shelter…

…he’s officially what the shelter calls a “failed foster”. He won’t leave his foster home because parting with him would be unimaginable. He’s a Skrocki now & forever. 🙂

But back to our 2nd attempt at fostering — Momma cat & her four kitties. There’s Smarty (she was the first explorer of the litter & is always bright-eyed )…

… Harper (the social butterfly, she connects so deeply to the beings around her, Momma cat always has an extra eye on her)…

…Cougar (super sweet & reserved, not really like her namesake, but I wonder if she might not like branching out a bit)…

…and the little brother, Mr. Magoo (the sweet runt & last to open his bright blue eyes, but now the most confident)…

The only thing stopping me from not keeping them (ALL of them) is the fine line between me and an official “weirdo cat lady” title. Colorado is such a shelter pet friendly state, so I’m sure every one of them will find a home they love, but please do let me know if you’re interested in any of them — it would make me feel a thousand times better to find them a home with good people I personally know.

Many thanks!



Stuff I’ve learned in the last 22 months & what’s next…

During “Blogging 101” sessions, I’d always advise aspiring bloggers to not apologize in their posts for not blogging frequently enough, but after an unplanned 22 month blogging hiatus (not counting my ever-present micro-blogging action ;-)), I owe anyone who might still be listening here an apology…I’m sorry and thank you for sticking around!

I’ve been luma-focused on a massive project at Accenture that saw it’s first manifestation of validated delivery yesterday. It’s not yet officially launched in the marketplace, so I can’t tell you a whole lot about it, but can tell you that this milestone presents a nice exit point for my Accenture journey — where I learned a LOT, which isn’t surprising, but what is surprising is over the last 22 months, I have learned a lot about things I wasn’t expecting to learn (some at Accenture, some elsewhere).

Stuff I’ve learned in the last 22 months (pardon the randomness — many points are pulled from notes I would take while living off the grid at 30k-40k in the air):

  1. Clarity comes at 30k-40k feet where distractions are few.
  2. Give yourself permission to not be uber productive and responsible at all times. It’s OK to submit to sleep, daydreaming, socializing, offlinedness (<– not a real word, but it should be), etc. The work will wait. Life won't. I'm not suggesting a lifestyle of laziness & irresponsibility — the work/life scale has no meter & oddly it's sometimes hard to know when you’re actually clinging to the life scale by your fingernails.
  3. I suck at being a road warrior. I’m grateful that my world is a bigger place now & I have the passport stamps to prove it, but the most amazing places on earth look like a Disneyland facade when you don’t have the people who matter most beside you.
  4. Don’t expect acknowledgement and/or reward for your hard work, amazing contributions, and super powers — be your best because it inspires YOU. That’s it. That’s the only validation you need.
  5. Some of the most necessary career alliances aren’t about perfect partnerships, but are more about an unspoken agreement to use each other in a mutually beneficial yet respectful way. Augh. I hate that, but it’s true. To contrast that dark point, some of the most important career alliances are those few (1-3 if you’re really lucky) who stand beside you in the darkest, riskiest, most challenging, unpleasant situations…AND would love to continue working with you. I can say this…I am really lucky and really grateful.
  6. The war against the glass ceiling is alive and well. If you’ve not called bullshit on it when you’ve seen it, you are part of the problem. What did you do the last time you saw an act of discrimination? If the answer is nothing, you missed an opportunity to make a difference that matters.
  7. Often, moments of clarity are the recalibration that lead to the next moments of not having a clue as to what the hell to do next, but knowing you have to do something. Do something. Fine tune if it was the wrong thing, but don’t be paralyzed by the fear of doing the wrong thing. There’s nothing sweeter than seeing your your ballsy decision validated as the right one.
  8. Personal down time isn’t optional — it is required for self-preservation. The following do not count as down time: submitting expenses, bio breaks, daily grooming (you have a real problem if you’ve ever considered adding shower time to your calendar — that’s not normal), etc.
  9. As you advance your career, rigorously protect that part of your brain that remains open to weird ideas & free of your ego. It’s sad to see once brilliant leaders submit to making decisions that best serve their ego — I don’t think they actually realize that’s what they’re doing, by the way.
  10. Know when your personal stock is up/down and mold your conversations with your boss with that in mind.
  11. The most personally valuable lesson I’ve learned is I now know my physical, emotional and intellectual limits — this might sound strange, but it’s rather interesting to hit (and realize) your thresholds even if it is painful. I also have had much of what I’ve always known about my character and convictions validated. As a result of knowing my boundaries, I now know how to protect them.

What’s next…

I’m taking a couple weeks off to reconnect with family, friends & myself; then, I’ll take on a product management directorship at Valassis, re-engaging with a few of my former Sun friends/colleagues. More to come on that topic, but you can expect to see me dial up my engagement in the social space again — something I LOVED doing at Sun.

All the best & thanks again for sticking around. 🙂


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